5 Harsh But True Rules Of Love You Can’t Escape
“All is fair in love and war.” Love has so many sayings and general laws, and relationships change so much over time that when these new phases begin, and you start realizing some truths about being in love, it can worry you.
Over time, you and your partner will experience so many new things together. Sometimes things will be happy, and sometimes they will be hard. These are trials and tests that will hopefully make you stronger when you come out of them.
No matter what, there are five laws of love that every couple will face throughout their lifetime together. Knowing them will help you get through those tough times together so you can move forward to the new, happy times that are sure to come.
5. It can still get lonely
People think that getting married means you’ll never get lonely. That’s not always true. You may never be alone, but it doesn’t mean you won’t get lonely. You could start thinking you aren’t appreciated, or that your partner doesn’t understand you anymore.
Everyone gets these thoughts, married or not. If you’re thinking them out of nowhere, you’re not alone. Try to figure out why you feel lonely. Maybe you can have a heart-to-heart with your partner, or talk to a counselor who has a more objective view. Either way, the lonely feelings will pass.
4. You’ll think some strange things
Even the happiest couples think strange things. “Did I make the right decision to get married to him/her?” “Would I be happier with someone else?” Sometimes, you can’t help that these pop into your head, but it does nothing for you to dwell on them.
You might as well ask, “What if I’d had different parents?” They’re just thoughts that come into your mind. They’ll stop popping up, and you’ll snap back to reality and remember how much you and your partner love each other.
3. You’ll probably lose your connection now and again
You might think to yourself, “We are totally meant to be.” Maybe you and your partner truly believe it’s fate that you are together, and you can’t imagine life without them. But there will sometimes be moments when you lose this connection.
Don’t panic, because it will come back. A lot of times, the stresses in our lives like work, friends, and family have us running all over the place so much that we forget to focus on what’s important to us. We forget to think about and appreciate the things and people we truly love. Don’t worry if you feel like you’ve suddenly lost your connection. You’ll find it again.
2. You can and will hurt each other
Because the two of you love each other so much, it hurts so much worse when your partner is the one hurting you. What they say affects you much more than what anyone else can say to you. They know your most vulnerable spots, and sometimes they will use this to their advantage.
It’s important to deal with the problems as they arise. Don’t let them sit for months on end, only to bring them up in an argument where they aren’t even relevant. It’s dirty to fight this way, and remember: you can’t always take back the words you say.
1. Love takes work
On its own, love won’t survive. It takes work and care. Think of it as a plant: if you don’t water it, pot it with the right nutrients and soil, and take it in when it gets cold, it’s likely to die.
You also can’t do it on your own. If only one person is there to keep your firing burning, it will be impossible. It takes two to make love last. We have to work on our relationships together, as a team.