22 Stages That Occur In A Relationship Between An Empath And A Narcissist
Would you consider yourself more of an empath or narcissist? I think it’s fair to say that most people would consider themselves to be more of the latter, but who knows. Point is, those two things are very opposite.
You’ve heard the saying opposites attract, and that has certainly happened with empaths and narcissists. It would make sense that people who give a lot and people who take a lot would cross paths – and at first, it seems perfect.
But the relationship between these two types of people can actually turn into something pretty bad. Below are the 22 stages of a relationship between an empath and a narcissist. Just take a look for yourself.
1. It starts with the empath being attracted to the narcissist. They start dating, and it doesn’t take too long for the empath to fall in love. So much so, in fact, that they feel 100% fulfilled, regardless of the fact that the narcissist is giving nothing in the relationship.
2. The empath isn’t done falling and love, and becomes convinced that what they have is special. They think that this is the kind of love that’s one in a million, and the narcissist feeds into this by agreeing. The empath feels deeply tied to the narcissist.
3. At points, it seems the narcissist wants this relationship equally. Of course, that’s not the case. In reality, they’re looking for someone to control – which is exactly what they’ve found.
4. The narcissist slowly begins degrading the empath. Using sayings like “I don’t mean to hurt you, but…” the empath begins feeling lesser than. Eventually, the empath feels like they need the narcissist in order to be happy in life because they’ve started viewing themselves negatively.
5. The empath will continue to give and give during the relationship. The narcissist plays themselves as the victim, and the empaths continue to give. They try to make up for everything that ever happened to the narcissist.
6. The empath has a good heart, and can’t imagine the pain of the narcissist. Because the narcissist continues to victimize themselves in an attempt to further control the empath, the empath feels the wounds of the narcissist are something they could never understand. The pain of the narcissist is more than they could ever imagine.
7. At the point, the relationship revolves completely around the narcissist. The empath slowly sees this, but they day nothing in order to please their partner. They want to make them happy, not worked up.
8. This dance continues for awhile. The empath is completely controlled by the narcissist and does whatever they can to make the narcissist happy. This continues until the empath reaches a breaking point.
9. When the empath says something, it doesn’t go over well. The narcissist feels like they’re being selfish, although they’re just speaking their mind. This issue goes unresolved and essentially ignored.
10. The narcissist seeks attention from everyone and everything. Though they may find attention in all aspects of their life, they will never feel fulfilled. The empath isn’t aware of this fact.
11. Eventually the empath will break again, saying something along the lines of “my feelings matter too”. The narcissist will say they are being dramatic and ridiculous. In reality, this response just gains more control of the mind of the empath.
12. Then the empath gets confused. They’ve acted out in such a way that isn’t their nature, and they feel unworthy of love. They are blaming themselves for the issues.
13. At this point the empath isn’t aware that they’re being manipulated and controlled. The narcissist has made it seem as though they are always right, and the empath never is. At least in regards to their own feelings.
14. The empath will do their best to communicate truthfully about their emotions. The narcissist won’t see this, through, and will only justify their actions during the argument. The blame will continue to be passed on to the empath.
15. This is the lowest point for the empath. They feel hurt, confused and very lost – but this is also where they will begin to grow. Once they self evaluate, things will begin changing.
16. First, they will have to realize that their gift is helping others. They are strong and are inclined to help people. Empaths will have to see this in themselves to come out of this depressive state.
17. The empath will then realize that they are worth something. They will see that their love and affection is not a gift to be taken lightly, and in the future, they will be weary of who they trust. The empath is beginning to see their worth.
18. Now the empath sees that they are in a bad situation. The narcissist has manipulated them and treated them poorly, and they don’t deserve it. So the empath decides to take action.
19. Although this is tremendous progress for the empath, it’s also a very tough pill to swallow. They will have to learn from this experience and change for the better. At least now, they are aware of this.
20. The narcissist will continue on with their life. They will never come to the realization that someone loved them as profoundly as they did, but they will one day realize that they can’t connect with other. The narcissist will always see themselves as innocent, though.
21. The narcissist will eventually move on to another victim. They will find someone new to manipulate, and the cycle will probably repeat. This will likely go on their whole lives, though the rate of the cycle may vary.
22. Out of all this, the empath will grow stronger and better. They will also be cautious about who they love in the future. Overall, the empath grew tremendously as a person.