12 Things Girls Do Without Being Asked That Make Them Worth Fighting For
Just because you’re a guy doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have standards. You should look for qualities in a girl that you want without just settling for the first girl that you meet. You may not realize how important it is to have a clearly defined set of wants for a girl you’re meant to be with, but when it comes to your romantic endeavors, you should never settle.
There are a lot of things you can look for in a woman that will tip you off as to the kind of person she is. Call them red flags, or signs, but either way, knowing what they are can tip you off early on if this is the kind of girl you should date long term.
Some are more subtle than others, but if you’re on the lookout from the beginning, you’ll be able to identify them. Don’t be overly suspicious or let down if she doesn’t display signs that she’s into you overtly. Just be on the lookout for them, and be happy when you see some of them.
There are dozens of ways you can determine whether or not a girl is the kind of person you should be with, but trying to remember all of them will drive you crazy. Here are 12 important things she might do that will totally make her worth the chase.
#1 She’s confident enough to admit that she likes you. The older we get, the more games start to become an annoyance rather than something that we find cute. Sometimes it’s a little playful when a girl does the whole hard to get thing, but a really confident girl will come right and tell you she likes you.
We’re not saying she’s going to jump right into bed with you, but admitting that you make her feel good means that she’s honest and that whatever you’re doing appears to be working. As a guy, it’s certainly nice to have that kind of guidance in the early stages of a relationship.
#2 She also has no problem being the dominant one on occasion. Maybe your relationship dynamic has been mostly traditional: you make the plans, she follows suit. The truth is, the world is a lot different nowadays, and this is totally outdated. A confident girl who occasionally steps in and asserts a little dominance is totally a catch.
Why? Because over time the responsibility of having to come up with things to do, or places to eat can get tiring. A girl who is happy to share the load is one that is honestly invested in the relationship.
#3 Some needier guys may not want their girls to have a life outside of being with them, but over time this can really poison the way people feel about each other. You want a girl who is a whole, complete individual. Not one who can’t go anywhere or do anything without you.
You may like being the center of her universe in the beginning, but over time this can wear you down. It’s a lot of responsibility. What’s more is that dependence sometimes isn’t so attractive. Don’t be afraid of her confidence or her assertiveness.
#4 If she respects you it’s another really good sign. Maybe she makes more money than you, or you have a career that is non-traditional. Unconditional respect from a girl you’re dating is totally valuable. It means she’s patient, she believes in you and she’s on board for whatever life throws your way.
If you get the sense that she’s un-supportive, and doesn’t take your goals seriously, she’s the type that will abandon you when things get tough. Don’t stand for that, and make sure she respects you as much as you do her.
#5 She shouldn’t ever be interested in material things. It’s totally sweet if you want to spend a little money on your girl from time to time. This is especially true of special occasions. The problem arises when she starts to expect it, or thinks its necessary for the relationship to progress.
Relationships are about love more than they are about buying each other things. Gift giving is nice, but if you can’t do it, and your girl seems disappointed, you’ll see her true colors.
#6 Strength and independence also go a long way. You might think you’re Superman, but eventually you will have to depend on this girl for something. Knowing that she can take control and solve problems when she needs to is a very valuable quality. If she’s the type that is self-made, you can bet that she’s the kind of girl who will get you out of a jam.
You don’t need to expect her to, because this will maker her less attracted to you, and the responsibility should fall equally on both of you. However, knowing you can depend on her resourcefulness is a good feeling.
#7 A supportive girl is always a keeper. When a girl believes in you, it not only makes you feel good, but it gives you the confidence to get your life in order. Sometimes, we lack the confidence to get where we need to be, or achieve the success we want, but having a support system is invaluable.
It’s a huge bonus when that support system is sweet, and likes to sleep next to you too. If this sounds like your girl, keep her around for sure.
#8 Passion is also a big part of any relationship. If she seems like she’s enjoying herself in the bedroom, and takes care to make sure you’re enjoying yourself too, it’s a very good thing. Just be careful not to make this the cornerstone of the relationship. It’s a part of it—an important part—but there are a ton of other factors at play.
#9 A girl who is a good listener is also one that you shouldn’t ever let go. When she drops what she’s doing to hear about what’s bugging you, you know that she’s fully invested in your well-being. Sometimes people fake this, or they only listen when it’s convenient for them, but a girl who genuinely cares is definitely a keeper. Just make sure you return the favor for her when she’s feeling down.
#10 Lastly, you should try to get a feel for how she talks about you when you’re not around. If she isn’t so gung-ho about you, or doesn’t seem to be excited when your name comes up, it may point to the fact that she’s got other plans aside from being with you. She may be embarrassed and may try to hide her feelings for you, but it’s still worth taking into account.
She should also want to defend you against other people who may speak ill of you. Knowing that she’s got your back is totally comforting, especially when you aren’t around.
Do you know a girl like this? Are you dating one? If you are, be sure to do everything you can to keep her. She’s probably a catch, and you’ll be hard pressed to find someone who can match her level of devotion.
Remember, people are not perfect, and you may not find a girl who does all these things. The golden rule is to find someone who genuinely cares about you, lets you in emotionally and puts you before everyone else.